You Teach Others How To Treat You


There are two points I want to make when discussing how we want others to treat us: 1. We often treat people how we would want to be treated (remember that golden rule?) and 2. We help shape the way people are going to behave around us by what we allow and what we don’t allow.

So first, that golden rule, ‘treat others how you would like to be treated.’  I do think if we all keep this in mind, we will be golden (pun intended/attempted;) ).  However, unless we are mind-readers, how do we know how someone else would like to be treated?  We assume that they would want to be treated the way we would want to be treated, but we all know what they say about assuming!  The way you want to be treated and the way someone else wants to be treated are often two very different things.  The way a person acts toward you is a great indication of how they would like to be treated in return.  We tend to put out what we hope to get back.  If a person is always helping others, offering support, and acting in a conscientious manner, it’s a pretty safe bet that they would like to be around people with a similar M.O.  If you care enough to treat someone the way they want to be treated, but they don’t care how they act toward you in return, then they may not be worth being around.

Secondly, you help shape the way people are going to act around you by what you allow and what you don’t allow.  It’s up to us to determine what we will and won’t put up with. (I struggle with this one!) If someone behaves negatively toward us, for example if they are bossy or controlling, and we let them get their way, then we are allowing that behavior, and that behavior will probably continue.  It's important to learn how to put your foot down, and let others know when their actions are not okay with you. The older I get the more I realize that people won't dislike us for doing this, they will respect us for it.  We need to set some boundaries to ensure we are being treated ways we deem acceptable and acknowledge that we are accountable for setting that bar.

In summary, treat others the way they'd like to be treated and show people the way you'd want to be treated. Be your best self and others tend to follow suit. Actions speak louder than words, so show people how great you are and don’t settle being around those that make you feel otherwise!


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