You're Getting Married!...Now What?
Getting engaged is so exciting! Once the excitement dies down a bit, it's easy to get overwhelmed with all the details. Questions will continue to come your way until the minute you are walking down the aisle.
I am getting married in 20 days! My engagement has had it's ups and downs and I wanted to share what I have learned along the way to make you're engagement that much easier!
Hire a Wedding Planner
I am very organized and I love to plan, but even I would have benefited from hiring a wedding planner. A wedding planner is 100% dedicated to the success of your big day.
I remember sitting at a meeting with the venue, my florist, and my parents each asking me a plethora of questions and because I was the sole planner, I had all the answers. It would have been nice to have had someone else there who knew all the details!
Set a Budet
The first thing I did when I got engaged was set a date, the second thing I did was set a budget. M and I talked about what we wanted and what we could afford.
Know that when you set a budget you will more than likely go over. Things come up so set a number and have a "buffer." There are a lot of Budget Guides out there, so be sure to do your research! (and use your wedding planner for this process, they know where to spend, and what needs to be included.)
Where to Invest
After planning my wedding and wishing I would have had someone there to help, I decided to go into Event Planning & Design (including Wedding Planning.) The first thing I want to know is what is their priority? Is it decor, guest enjoyment, food? Every bride is completely different and no budget is going to be the same.
I recommend investing in your photographers and your DJ. Not everyone can afford this, I totally get it, and some people would rather invest in an open bar (to each their own! Who doesn't like an open bar!?) I didn't plan on investing in a great photographer and great DJ, but I am glad I have. I went over my budget, but the relief I feel knowing the photos and music are going to be amazing was well worth it! Entertainment can make or break an event and photos last forever!
Set a Date
M and I set a wedding date from the drive from where he proposed (my house) to my Birthday dinner that night (about 10 minutes away.) We got together in September so we wanted to keep it in the same month and I wanted an even number, so September 24th it was! BOOM. Date set.
A few things I didn't consider that I wish I would have-
Flowers & Decor. Decor and florals were my highest priority but I didn't realize that certain flowers are in season at certain times. You will save a lot of headache and money if you pick a date that the flowers you want are in season! My colors are gold, muted peach, and white which are more "Summer" than "Fall". In hind sight I wanted the entire summer to plan and enjoy, but it's been more plan than enjoy, if I would have done it again I would have gotten married in June! That way my flowers would have been in season and we could have enjoyed the rest of the summer as a married couple. (Our honeymoon destination, Greece, also would have been warmer!)
Last Minute Details
No matter how much you plan, there are certain things you just can't do until the last minute. It's inevitable that you will be overwhelmed and extremely busy the few months leading up to your big day. Take a deep breath! Don't worry it will all get done. Delegate and ask for help.
Stop planning. At some point you need to put the pinterest away and execute what you have planned. Otherwise you will forever be changing your vision or adding to it, and you will drive yourself crazy.
Enjoy the Process
The most important thing you need to remember is to ENJOY the Process. You will question yourself. One minute you may think "Why am I doing this for ONE NIGHT?" the next you will think, "This is the biggest day of my life it needs to be PERFECT!" -Both those statements are true. It is one night and it could very well be the biggest night of your life, but remember what the night represents. It's friends and family all coming together to celebrate this next step in your life. It's a celebration, so enjoy it! (and remember it's your fiancee's big night as well, so don't forget about him during the process!-Sorry Mike!) :)
If you are planning a wedding, have a friend planning a wedding, or just have questions about planning an event leave your questions/comments below!- I am an open book! :)